Funeral
“Places where you can be close to the deceased are characterized by the double experience, namely the painful absence and the intense closeness.”
Roland Kachler
You as a parent decide what to do with your child and when.
There is no need to rush or take hasty actions.
Due to the lack of bacterial colonization of the intestines, which takes place only after the intake of food, there will be no unpleasant odours. Only the bodies change over time, a process that can be delayed by cooling.
Accompany the child to the stars
• Choose a coffin / burial basket, decorate and prepare it.
• Use the services of stärnechind.ch (small clothes / wraps, two-part clay amulet – one for the star child and one for the parents, memory box)
• Decide on the burial method (burial or cremation)
• Choose a special urn
Proposals around the funeral service
• Invite relatives, acquaintances and friends
• Write the life story (experiences in pregnancy with the child in the abdomen and so on)
• Order balloons
• Organize soap bubbles
• Contact the priest
• For the funeral speech, ask relatives, acquaintances and friends if they could assist
• Choose music
• A funeral service does not have to take place in church and there is no need to have a priest present if so desired
• In a single grave, the cross can be colourfully painted; this can also be used to hang various precious items such as angels, hearts, butterflies, etc.
Choose a memorial place for the child
• Cemetery: own grave, grave site/memorial for prematurely deceased children, collective burial
• Natural burial (under a tree) or scattering of the ashes (water, lake, meadow, glacier or in the air)
• Fried Wald
• Diamond memorial (remembrance diamond from the ashes)
• keep the urn at home
• Ash pendant/necklace
• Find a special place in nature
Burial on private property
The urn or ashes of children who are subject to funeral duties can be buried or scattered on private property.
Children who are not subject to funeral duties can be buried on private land by yourself.
In advance, you as parents should ask yourself the following questions
• What do we do if we have to move?
• Where do the relatives go for grief counselling?
• Will it still feel right for us in a few years that our child is buried on our private property?
We recommend digging the hole deep enough to prevent disturbance by wildlife. Also helpful may be a stone slab or something similar that is put in place for protection.
Further information: funeral services