Mein Sternenkind

“Our world stands still…”

The child is still your child and always will be.
The break in the relationship with the child happens in a state of shock – that’s quite normal.

What I can do for myself now:

• find a midwife (hebamme.ch)
• call your midwife
• find a Doula (doula.ch)
• call your Doula
• contact a specialist at kindsverlust.ch
• call someone who is good for me.

Many parents say afterwards that everything had gone much too fast.
There’s no rush, so do not act while in a state of shock.

What can I do for my child now?

• Contact Herzensbilder (from pregnancy week 23 0/7 , the association Herzensbilder.ch donates a photo shoot with professional photographers to families of critically ill, disabled or prematurely born Children), only in German-speaking Switzerland.

• make a plaster cast of the belly
• photograph the belly
• carefully oil the stomach one more time
• decide on the name of the child
• write a diary for yourself and your child
• if necessary, sew your own clothes and caps for the child, crochet,
knit or ask relatives / acquaintances /staernechind.ch for this
• set up your last daybed
• visit a place that is important / has meaning
• meet and talk to important people together with you
• for unmarried couples: prior recognition of paternity at the Civil Registry Office

What to take with you
What do you want to welcome your child with?

• Welcome card, flowers, candle etc.
• Clothes for the child (if available). If no suitable clothing is available, the clothes boxes from the association Stärnechind are     available in the hospital with suitable clothing for children up to the 32nd pregnancy week. Some hospitals also have clothes for term-born Sternenkinder; please ask before entering the hospital on the maternity ward, if they are in possession of appropriate clothing.
• Blanket
• Cap/hat for the child
• Music box
• Camera
• Mobile phone and charger
• Cuddly toy/ Muslin
• What gives you strength? Take something with you that is important to you, a power object, a stone from nature, your own music collection.